Tuesday, June 11, 2013

The shame game - can I get a little respect?

Robert Kroese - Doesn't play well with others.
*Correction - the title of his book is Schrodinger's Gat. I was so annoyed I didn't bother to read the title properly. Please forgive me.

If you know me at all, you will know that I don't like online drama and 99.9% of the time I try to be kind in my dealings with others. (That .1% - well no one is perfect.) I feel there is far too much meanness in the world as it is.

Just this one time, I am going to shame someone right here on my blog. Not to be mean, but because I feel demeaned and devalued by his treatment of me, as a blogger and as a person.

I recently received a review request from an author. It was a generic form letter in which he did not bother to insert my name in the greeting and did not follow the directions of my review policy. They are pretty straightforward after all.


I responded to that request by declining his offer to read his book based on those factors and suggested that in future requests he might want to treat bloggers as people rather than a means to an end by at least personalizing his requests.

This particular author, however, is apparently extremely arrogant and doesn't know how to play nice with others and I was quite offended by his response which was "Here's a personalized request for you to kiss my ass. Get over yourself."

Now, I don't have a big head here. I don't think my little blog changes lives, and even my book is not likely to be made into a movie, and will probably never even make a best seller list.

But I do ask to be treated with respect.

So I, again trying to be helpful, explained that I was hoping he would take my advice about personalizing his requests as he approaches other reviewers. His second response was as bad as the first.

He said "Thanks for being 'helpful.' I got a similar response from another douchebag reviewer 4 years ago when I self-published my first novel. That one went on to sell 60,000 copies. Fortunately I didn't listen to "helpful" people like you then either."

His website claims he is: "Writer of humorous scifi/fantasy. Skeptical believer. Recovering Republican. Small l libertarian. I'm just happy to be here."

I claim he is an arrogant jerk.

So bloggers beware - if you get a review request from an author named Robert Kroese for his new book Shroedinger's Cat - do with it what you will. But if you are hoping he will treat you with the respect due a fellow human being you are sadly out of luck.

28 comments:

  1. Funny the name of his book is the name of a VERY famous author Robert Anton Wilson wrote.. NICE.. cannot even bother to be original! I mean WTH??

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    1. Sorry Kriss - my error. I have corrected the book name. :(

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    2. LOL well he changed it up by ONE LETTER, who would have thought. LOL hes a .............. well pot calling the kettle black

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  2. Wow that's just crazy tacky. Kudos for calling him out. Its sad he couldn't even try to be a little original with his title and a little human with his review request.

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    1. My mistake with his title - it is slightly more original than I first stated. But thanks for the support.

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    2. Schrodinger's Gat: Far more original. :/

      Don't think I'll be reading it any time soon. Back to reviewing authors who are pleasant AND talented!

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  3. I'd doubt he's sold 60,000 copies as his Amazon rankings suggest he sells about 1 a day on their site. Not only that, in life, I find those who react as he did, do so because they are frustrated and desperate. He didn't get a review he needed. Poor baby. Maybe he should be nice and the review fairies would do things that made him happy.

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    1. You may be right - I didn't check his Amazon rankings. I agree, treating people nicely gets you much farther in life. Thanks Dionne.

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    2. He is a Vine author so all his books get to be read by Vine reviewers.

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  4. Wow! What a jerk. I think people like that should be called out. No wonder some bloggers stopped taking reviews.

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    1. It sure does make you think, doesn't it? Thanks for the support Obsidian.

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  5. Good for you. I am selling really well on Amazon, but still see no use in making enemies on the internet. I review books myself, not on a blog, but on Amazon and Goodreads, but will only post the reviews of books I like, and will simply not post if I don't like them. Again, not out to make enemies. I had one question for that author though. Why would he need a review if he is doing so well? My best selling books (best selling for me that is, not on any list) are already getting plenty of reviews, including a few blog reviews. The ones I want to get reviews for are the ones that are not doing so well, and I have some of those as well. I will make sure not to add Schrodinger's Gat to my must read list.

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    1. I honestly couldn't answer your question Dan - only he could and I am not advocating that anyone ask him. I hesitated to actually post this, in part because I just don't like to put negative energy out there, but also because I am afraid my calling him out will actually get him MORE publicity - you know, the old adage that any publicity is good publicity. I will post constructive criticism in a review - however if I have been specifically asked to review a book and I feel it could be construed negatively I always give the author the opportunity of refusal. I like to play fair.

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  6. OMG, Robert Kroese? I read and reviewed his entire Mercury series, which was indeed hilarious. That's just sad that he's so full of himself... :-( Frequently this "Badly Behaving Author" stuff is a witch hunt, but it sounds like this one is a winner (or loser, however you want to look at it). So sorry to hear you were treated this way, and I guess he'll go on my own personal shitlist... *sigh*

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  7. Katy - I am actually saddened to hear that he is a good writer - for both him and myself. I just can't let myself read the writings of someone who behaves so badly to anyone - let alone to me. *sigh*

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  8. Sorry this happened to you AB! As an occasional reviewer I would avoid this person. As an author I am embarrassed at this asshat. Well, this will go hand in hand with a post I wrote yesterday "You Never Know Who's Watching" and Next Monday's post "People Talk".

    Awesome kudos to you!

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    1. Thanks Amanda - I'll look for your posts.

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  9. You're a lot nicer person than I am, Abe. When I get a request where they clearly didn't bother to read my submission policy (but still managed to find the correct email address to send it) I don't even bother to respond.

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  10. Um. That should be A.B., not Abe. But you knew that. :)

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    1. I'll answer to just about anything. ;)

      I don't always respond. Some days I feel nicer than others - that one kind of bit me in the butt though, didn't it? *sigh* Thanks.

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  11. A.B,Please do not feel bad about calling this not so gentle, man out. It had to be done, rudeness has no place in any society. Respect of another is one of things that makes us human. I am a struggling author like the rest of us and normally I am too shy when asking for reviews, but when I did I did so by following the guidelines set out by the reviewer and addressing the reviewer, personally. After all if I am requesting that you take a chance on my novel, the very least I can do is to treat you like a human being, because that is how I would want to be treated. Thank you for finding the courage to do this! Take care. Tina Traverse

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    1. I've begun sending my own requests for review of my book too, Tina, and one thing I've learned from being a blogger is to follow the review policy and to try to make bloggers feel like they matter - not because it is something you should do, but because they DO matter. Every human being matters. And if you are asking for a favor, for God's sake ask be nice.

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    2. I agree with you 100 percent A.B! If you, at any time would like for me to review you novel, please feel free to email me at ttraverse@hotmail.com and I will be happy to do so!
      Have a great day! Tina

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    3. I've sent you an email Tina. Thanks! :)

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  12. Sorry to hear you had to deal with a somewhat nasty reaction (his) to a very neutral response (yours). He is obviously extremely smart about branding, but his response lacks not just respect but class and simple kindness.

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    1. Thanks Chryse - it has been lovely to have so much support from the Indie and blogger communities.

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  13. Wow. That's just... How do people like this survive real life? If someone corrects the way he submitted his taxes, does he flip out and tell them to kiss his high and mighty behind? He obviously thinks his time is more important than everyone else's. Submission guidelines? Ha! Far beneath him...

    Sorry you had to deal with this.

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    1. Thanks Disregard - yeah I obviously had a problem with it. It saddens me when people like that get ahead, but I do believe in Karma.

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